#Still in love how to#

Understand that when you truly love someone and have become attached to him or her, figuring out how to move forward in your life without that person is not necessarily a simple prospect. The bottom line is: be patient with this process. And those stages are not a direct line, in a forward direction! You are very likely to 'recycle' some stages. The length of the relationship, the type of relationship, how and why it ended, may all be relevant to how long you experience your grief.

There are many factors that might impact your specific experience of those stages. Healthy grieving involves several stages, which you pretty much must go through to move past a prior relationship. So now you are grieving not only the loss of the relationship, but you are grieving the loss of your hopes for the relationship. It was a matter of external factors or the other person's on-going issues (addictions, abuse, infidelity, etc.) which prompted your decision. This may be because while you decided to end your relationship, you did not want to. Once your heart has become attached to another person, it takes time, and some intentionality, to be able to let them go and move on. Again, that is just not how love and attachment tend to operate. You may have assumed that since you made a choice, you would just easily move on. But you may be surprised at the strength, or length, of your love for your ex if you were the one to end the relationship. This is likely to be pretty easily understood. Trying to move on is even more difficult if you were not the one to choose to end the relationship. There is an extent to which your on-going love for your ex may be completely natural, understandable, and evidence of your genuine love for him or her. But they can interfere with our ability to let go, and move on when the relationship is over. These are pretty important features of healthy love when we want a relationship to stand the test of time. Healthy love includes caring for the other person unconditionally, sacrificially, and selflessly. While it may seem quite easy to affix them to each other, breaking that connection is much more difficult. When you genuinely love someone, you become attached, almost like two pieces of paper glued together. Love and attachment simply do not work that way. Just because a relationship ends does not mean that your thoughts and feelings end abruptly.

First, it can be very helpful just to understand something about attachment and love. Moving On Is Not Impossible - Sign Up How to Move On Even When You Still Love Your Ex